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RETIREMENT & MENTAL HEALTH: RECOMMENDATIONS
Retirement is stepping aside from one's position or occupation after working for a stated period of time. It implies withdrawing from ones active working life.
Semi Retirement is when a person reduces their work hours or work load.
Because of its nature, Retirement usually takes place when someone has passed their prime, is elderly and incapable of doing their job due to health or other personal reasons This is also when they are eligible for pension benefits.
Some are also forced into retirement when they are no longer productive or have become an occupational hazard to the environment.
Most developed countries have working and sustainable systems to provide pension and retirement plans in old age funded by the employer or the state because retirement is considered a right of the worker.
In Nigeria, it is believed that there is little or no support system for the elderly beyond provision from their families especially in the area of healthcare. There is also low life expectancy, lack of social security, and low pension arrangements from both government, public, and private employers.
These beliefs about the neglect of the well-being of retired persons creates intense fear and, in some cases, phobia in their work life and productivity. It has also pushed a lot of workers into negative pathways as they strategise and execute settlement plans for their retirement, such as stealing of public or private funds, acquiring properties through dubious means, blackmail and a host of other self-help schemes.
Furthermore, the ever present reality of future loneliness, abandonment, hunger, deprivation and inability to feed well after decades of service have fuelled this intense emotion affects their productivity and loyalty while actively in service because they spend more time taking care of their exit plans.
Some employees who accessed some loans during their active service were not able to finish paying back the loans before retiring, and this has created worry and anxiety disorder which affects their mental health.
Some workers are faced with the constant fear of losing the accommodation provided to them by their employers upon their retirement because they have nowhere else to shelter with their spouses and other dependants apart from going back to their villages.
This results in many of them retiring as disgruntled, sad, miserable, depressed individuals, full of regrets because they retired into nothing.
This feeling of hopelessness, coupled with many other negative emotions, makes them vulnerable and a ready tool in the hands of perpetrators of crime, which also poses security threats and challenges in the society if not addressed. This has not only created suicidal thoughts for some individuals but has actually led some into committing the act.
RECOMMENDATIONS:
1. Government, public and private organisations should have and provide sustainable retirement plans for employees which will cater for their mental, physical, emotional, spiritual ie wholistic wellbeing after retirement.
2. Health care services should be provided for employees while in active service and should also continue after retirement.
3. Governments, public and private organisations should work with NGOs that advocate for and champion mental health counselling / therapy for the elderly to keep assessing their mental health.
4. Retired individuals should be encouraged to engage in multi sports activities to help build resilience and thereby enhance their health.
5. They should be consulted or included in decision-making at some level of governance or leadership because of their acquired years of experience. They can become coaches, mentors, and educators in various spheres of life. This will help to occupy their mind and give them a sense of belonging and a new lease of life.
6. Pension fees should be raised and be enough to cater for and sustain the basic needs and well-being of individuals that have retired, especially shelter, food, and health care.
CHILD EXPOSURE, NEGLECT, ABUSE AND MENTAL HEALTH
Child maltreatment is broad and it includes all types of abuse and neglect of a child under the age of 18 by a parent, caregiver or another person playing a custodial role to a child. And once their mental health is negatively affected, the effect remains with them till adulthood unless addressed.
Child Maltreatment takes many forms such as physical abuse, sexual abuse, emotional abuse and neglect, child labour, use as child soldiers, exposure to pornography, nudity and indecent materials and a host of others.
It is an ill wind that blows no body any good.
Indeed, maltreated children are most at risk of developing mental health problems due to their exposure to abuse and neglect. For instance, the use of young girls at some massage parlours for happy ending, “ushers” at certain events, services at club houses, bars and other places to be used as advertising and marketing networks, exposes them to all manners of abuse. These abuses affect their mental health as many of them are often times coerced, threatened or neglected etc.
Psychologists put it that Child Maltreatment has mental and emotional consequences on the said survivor. Children and young persons who experience abuse and neglect are more likely to develop anxiety, depression, memory issues e.t.c and are therefore at increased risk for a number of problematic developmental, health and mental health outcomes including learning problems and deficiencies.
What is required is for stakeholders to join hands with strong coalitions to raise the necessary awareness and to effect policies that will help to address issues around child maltreatment and effectively tackle the root causes and motivating factors such as child labour, house maids, hawking, child marriages and so on.
EVERYBODY NEEDS MENTAL HEALTH AWARENESS...MENTAL HEALTH THERAPIST UZOAMAKA
A child psychologist, counsellor/therapist and life coach Uzoamaka Nwachukwu of Cope and Live Mental Health Awareness Foundation has advocated the need for everyone to take responsibility by prioritising their mental health and to become self aware. She made this known on 8/8/2024 while speaking during a stakeholder virtual FREE engagement activity on mental health & wellness which was organised by Cope and Live Mental Health Awareness Foundation Resource Centre to strengthen awareness and deepen consciousness on the triggers to negative emotions, anxiety disorders and addictions as well as their negative consequences on persons and on the society.
According to Uzoamaka, who is a Certified Child Psychologist, a Certified Grief & Bereavement counsellor, a Certified Depression counsellor, a Certified Emotional Intelligence Life Coach and a Certified Mental Health & Wellness Life coach, "Everyone needs Mental Health awareness, education and interventions in order to cope and live for wholistic well-being and self actualisation because mental health state is not static but changes with events and can change many times in the day hence the need for emotional self-awareness”. She observed that people are more aware of physical health than mental health because physical health is what people can easily see whereas mental health state is unseen and revolves around mindsets and emotions but controls the physical. She used the occasion to advocate on strong policies to promote a framework for mental health awareness in order to bring the knowledge and awareness to people (self awareness).
She expressed happiness on what Cope and Live Mental Health Awareness Foundation has started doing such as the Free counselling engagement for widows, widowers, bereaved persons, elderly persons above 65 years, sports men and women, Free Antenatal and postpartum depression counselling, Free Counselling for the physically challenged and visually impaired persons amongst others in conjunction with Rangers international Foundation, CAPIONG, ASTRIC, INECAS etc.
Speaking Further, she maintained that all organisations and spheres of life ought to prioritise mental health awareness and education through the institutionalisation of counselling departments manned by certified mental health life coaches, therapists and psychologists to be able to handle such issues with their staff and other individuals so as to enhance their cognitive, emotional, intellectual and social capabilities for optimum performance, improved psychological well being and productivity.
Today in our society, people are faced with a whole lot of challenges and limitations and a large number seem to be overwhelmed hence the continued emergence and inevitability of some negative emotions, anxieties, depression and anxieties, traumas and its well being challenges like suicide and so on. Just as there are medical practitioners for our medical health challenges the existence of counselling units is equally or important because mental health is a form of health that needs urgent attention. Come and think of it, a Driver, Pilot, Doctor, Athlete, Footballer, Clergy, Nursing mother, Law enforcement agent, Child / Young person, Students, Parent, Teachers and other service providers in our society may have been overwhelmed by negative emotions and mental health challenges owing to some circumstances and factors at some point or the other. Everyone needs mental health awareness and intervention to enhance their cognitive, emotional, intellectual, spiritual and social care.
#treasureyourmentalhealth
THE IMPORTANCE OF NUTRITION ON AN INFANT’S DEVELOPMENT & MENTAL HEALTH (BREASTFEEDING)
Nutrition is the cornerstone of health, particularly for nursing mothers. Because what they eat is passed on to the baby, the food choices a nursing mother makes directly impact and influence the developmental progress of her nursing child. During the postpartum period, the nutritional demands on a mother are high, and meeting these needs is critical to both her well-being and her baby's growth.
Nutrient deficiency can impair cognitive(brain) function, affecting memory, focus and concentration. It can lead to fatigue and low energy (Weak baby).
Poor maternal nutrition can alter the composition of breast milk. Nutrients like zinc, iron, and vitamin B12 are pivotal for brain development and overall growth in infants and a deficiency in these nutrients not only affects the mother's health but also compromises the nutrient profile of her breast milk, which can hinder the baby's cognitive and physical development.
EFFECTS ON THE MOTHER'S HEALTH
Breastfeeding is an energy-intensive process, requiring additional calories and a wide range of nutrients to sustain milk production and support the mother’s health. Inadequate nutrition can lead to fatigue, decreased milk supply, and a host of other health problems, making it difficult for the mother to maintain her energy levels and continue breastfeeding. This, in turn, can disrupt the breastfeeding process, affecting the mother’s ability to provide adequate care for her child.
ESSENTIAL FOODS FOR NURSING MOTHERS
To ensure that both mother and baby are thriving, it is crucial for nursing mothers to focus on a diet that includes a variety of nutrient-dense foods. Here are some of the most important foods that can provide the needed nutrients for a baby’s development:
Leafy Greens (Spinach, Kale, Broccoli)
Leafy greens are packed with vitamins A and C, calcium, and iron. These nutrients are vital for the development of the baby’s bones and immune system, as well as for maintaining the mother’s health. They also help support milk production.
Lean Proteins (Chicken, Turkey, Eggs, Beans)
Protein is essential for repairing tissues and building muscles. Lean proteins like chicken, turkey, eggs, and beans provide the necessary amino acids needed for the baby’s growth and help maintain the mother’s muscle strength.
Fatty Fish (Salmon, Sardines, Mackerel)
Fatty fish are rich in omega-3 fatty acids, which are crucial for the baby’s brain and eye development. These healthy fats also support the mother’s cardiovascular health and reduce inflammation.
Whole Grains (Brown Rice, Oats, Quinoa)
Whole grains provide complex carbohydrates that give the mother sustained energy throughout the day. They are also a good source of fibre, which aids digestion, and B vitamins, which are important for energy production and stress management.
Dairy Products (Milk, Cheese, Yogurt)
Dairy products are excellent sources of calcium and vitamin D, which are essential for the baby’s bone and teeth development. They also help the mother replenish the calcium lost during breastfeeding, supporting her bone health.
Nuts and Seeds (Almonds, Walnuts, Chia Seeds)
Nuts and seeds are rich in healthy fats, protein, and magnesium. They provide a steady source of energy and contribute to the overall health of both mother and baby. Additionally, they support brain function and can help reduce the risk of postpartum depression.
Fruits (Berries, Oranges, Bananas)
Fruits are high in vitamins, antioxidants, and natural sugars. They boost the mother’s immune system, provide quick energy, and help with the absorption of iron, which is important for preventing anaemia in both mother and baby.
Legumes (Lentils, Chickpeas, Black Beans)
Legumes are an excellent source of plant-based protein and iron. They help in maintaining the mother’s energy levels, prevent anaemia, and support the healthy growth of the baby.
Hydration
Staying hydrated is essential for maintaining an adequate milk supply. Nursing mothers should drink plenty of water, herbal teas, and other hydrating fluids to support their body’s needs and ensure sufficient milk production.
CONCLUSION
A nursing mother’s diet is a powerful tool in supporting her baby’s growth and development. By incorporating nutrient-rich foods like leafy greens, lean proteins, fatty fish, whole grains, and fruits into her daily diet, a mother can ensure that her breast milk is rich in the essential nutrients her baby needs. Additionally, proper hydration and a focus on balanced nutrition can help the mother maintain her energy levels and overall health.
Ultimately, the choices a mother makes about her nutrition during breastfeeding have a lasting impact on both her and her baby’s well-being. With the right foods and a commitment to self-care, a mother can give her baby the healthiest start in life, while also nurturing her own body and spirit.
UNDERSTANDING HOLISTIC WELLBEING
Holistic wellbeing is a comprehensive approach to health that emphasises the connection between the body, mind, emotions, and spirit. It goes beyond the absence of illness. It is aiming for a state of balance and harmony in all areas of life, encompassing the very nature of man - Spirit, Soul and Body. By considering the whole person, holistic wellbeing seeks to optimise health through an integrated and balanced approach.
DIMENSIONS OF HOLISTIC WELLBEING
1. PHYSICAL HEALTH: THE BODY'S FOUNDATION
Physical health forms the cornerstone of holistic wellbeing. It includes regular exercise, a balanced diet, adequate sleep, and preventive healthcare. Beyond these basics, it’s also about engaging in activities that bring physical joy and vitality, like multi-sports, dancing to hiking, swimming and so on.
2. MENTAL HEALTH: CULTIVATING A HEALTHY MIND
Mental wellbeing is crucial for overall health. It involves managing stress, maintaining a positive mindset, and engaging in continuous learning. Practices like mindfulness, meditation, and cognitive exercises keep the mind sharp and resilient, enhancing mental clarity and emotional stability.
ALCOHOL - UNDERSTANDING THE RISKS AND MENTAL HEALTH CHALLENGES
Many people consume alcohol with the belief that it helps them relax. This effect is only temporary. Alcohol is a depressant that slows down the brain and Central Nervous System. Understanding this distinction, along with the health risks associated with excessive or frequent drinking, is essential for making informed choices about alcohol consumption.
ALCOHOL ABUSE:
It is the excessive and harmful consumption of alcohol that leads to negative consequences in various aspects of life, including health, relationships, and daily functioning. It often involves drinking in large quantities or drinking frequently, despite the awareness of its adverse effects. This pattern of behaviour can lead to physical dependence, psychological problems, and social issues.
In today's world, many people turn to alcohol as a way to cope with their problems, believing that drinking is a positive solution. However, this often leads to alcohol abuse. They overlook the fact that once the effects of the alcohol wear off, their problems remain unsolved and unchanged. The temporary escape that drinking provides does not address the root of their issues, leaving them still seeking real solutions.
ALCOHOL AS A STIMULANT:
When consumed, alcohol stimulates the release of dopamine in the brain, which can create an initial sense of euphoria, reduced inhibitions and increased energy. This temporary uplift may lead you to feel more sociable and confident. However, this effect is short-lived and can obscure the underlying issues that alcohol fails to address.
IMPAIRED JUDGMENT AND RISKY BEHAVIOR:
Alcohol lowers inhibitions and impairs judgment, which can lead to risky behaviour. Actions that may seem harmless under the influence of alcohol can result in significant consequences, such as impaired driving or dangerous social interactions. The stimulant effect reduces your ability to make sound decisions, increasing the risk of accidents and injuries.
DISRUPTED SLEEP PATTERNS:
Although alcohol may help you fall asleep more quickly, it disrupts the sleep cycle, particularly REM sleep. REM sleep is crucial for mental and emotional restoration, and its disruption can lead to poor-quality sleep. As a result, you may feel unrested and irritable the following day.
HEALTH CHALLENGES:
● LIVER DAMAGE: Chronic excessive drinking places considerable strain on the liver, potentially leading to conditions such as fatty liver, hepatitis, and cirrhosis. Over time, this strain can compromise the liver’s ability to process alcohol, resulting in severe long-term damage.
● CARDIOVASCULAR ISSUES: Alcohol consumption can elevate heart rate and blood pressure, increasing the risk of cardiovascular diseases such as heart disease and stroke. The added stress on the cardiovascular system from frequent drinking can have serious and lasting effects on heart health.
● MENTAL HEALTH IMPACT: While alcohol might provide temporary relief from stress, it can exacerbate mental health issues such as depression and anxiety. The stimulant effects can mask these conditions, making them more difficult to address effectively.
● WEIGHT GAIN: Alcohol is high in empty calories, which can contribute to weight gain and obesity. It also disrupts metabolic processes, raising the risk of developing diabetes and other metabolic disorders.
● DIGESTIVE PROBLEMS: Regular alcohol consumption can irritate the digestive system, leading to issues such as gastritis, ulcers, and pancreatitis. Persistent irritation can cause significant discomfort and lead to chronic digestive problems.
THE RISKS:
● Addiction and Dependency
● Increased Risk of Chronic Diseases
● Social and Legal Consequences
● Cognitive Impairment
THE EFFECT OF ALCOHOL ON MENTAL HEALTH
1. MOOD DISORDERS:
Alcohol is a depressant, which means it slows down brain activity and impairs emotional regulation. While it might initially make someone feel more relaxed or euphoric, these effects are temporary. Over time, alcohol use can worsen mood disorders like depression and anxiety. It disrupts the balance of neurotransmitters in the brain, leading to increased feelings of sadness and anxiety when not drinking.
2. RISK OF MENTAL HEALTH DISORDERS:
Chronic alcohol abuse is associated with an increased risk of developing severe mental health disorders such as bipolar disorder and schizophrenia. Alcohol can exacerbate these conditions, making symptoms more severe and challenging to manage.
3. COGNITIVE FUNCTION:
Long-term alcohol abuse can significantly impair cognitive functions such as memory, concentration, and decision-making. Regular drinking affects the brain's ability to process and retain information. Chronic use can lead to severe cognitive impairments, such as memory loss and difficulties with problem-solving, which may persist even after stopping alcohol consumption.
4. SLEEP PROBLEMS:
While alcohol might help some individuals fall asleep faster, it disrupts the quality of sleep. It interferes with the REM (Rapid Eye Movement) stage of sleep, which is crucial for mental restoration and emotional stability. Poor sleep quality due to alcohol can result in daytime fatigue, irritability, and a general decline in mental health.
5. STRESS AND ANXIETY:
Many people use alcohol as a way to manage stress, but this can have the opposite effect. Alcohol increases the production of cortisol, the body’s primary stress hormone, leading to heightened stress and anxiety. This creates a cycle where individuals drink to alleviate stress but end up feeling more stressed as a result of their drinking.
CONCLUSION
Understanding that alcohol primarily acts as a depressant rather than a true relaxant helps clarify its effects and associated risks. The stimulating properties of alcohol, combined with the health challenges of excessive or frequent drinking, emphasise the importance of avoidance. Exploring healthier alternatives for relaxation and seeking support if needed can lead to better health outcomes and overall well-being.
Understanding the impact of alcohol on mental health is essential for making informed choices about its use. While alcohol may offer temporary relief from stress or emotional pain, it ultimately contributes to a range of mental health issues and fails to address underlying problems. Adopting healthier coping strategies, such as therapy, support groups, and lifestyle changes, can provide more effective solutions for managing mental health and overall well-being.
#Treasure Your Mental Health.
Fearless
The most powerful weapon you have in the world is your mind. What do you feed it with?
If you feed it with fear, which is an intense negative emotion, it will keeps you in bondage and hinder your prosperity.
It usually leads to other negative emotions like uncertainty, worry, anxiety, doubt, unbelief, and vice versa.
Common examples are the fear of making mistakes, fear of the unknown, death, failure, the future, acceptance in the society, new government policies, and losing a loved one or a relationship, to list but a few.
It is not unusual to experience fear which is commonly defined as an unpleasant emotion caused by the threat of danger, pain or harm when one is faced with such. In this case, it can keep us alert and make us avoid danger. However, fear can also be a trap, existing constantly in the mind even without the threat of danger, pain or harm.
Some may even be in bondage by the fear of leaving their comfort zone to explore something new even when they are convinced that they need a change of lifestyle, job, career, relationship, environment, position, school, subject and so on. This intense fear negatively affects their willingness and convictions to take risks in life.
Fear is a thing of the mind. If you allow it to win in your mind, then you are already a slave to it.
What if you fail? Learn from your mistakes and move on. The world won't end because you failed.
Living a fearful life is a mental suffering and bondage which can lead one into depression, high blood pressure, having suicidal thoughts, or even become suicidal.
You can overcome fear when you start to replace it with positive emotions such as faith, hope, optimism, love, compassion and so on while realising that entertaining fear actually has no effect on the outcome of any situation except to generate tension.
#Treasure Your Mental Health.
A NARCISSISTIC MOTHER'S EFFECT ON HER CHILD
A NARCISSISTIC MOTHER'S EFFECT ON HER CHILD
Every child dreams of growing up with parents who are kind, loving, and supportive. They flourish when they can share their joys and struggles, confident that they'll receive unwavering love and encouragement. From the earliest days, children feel the warmth of being cherished and valued.
Yet, the agony of feeling unloved by their own mother, the one who should be their ultimate source of unconditional love and support, is profound. A mother is meant to unite the family, shoulder her children's burdens, and provide a nurturing haven.
The heartbreak of having a narcissistic mother is one of the worst fates for a child. It's a cruel contradiction where the person destined to offer unconditional love instead prioritises her own needs, leaving deep emotional wounds and lifelong distress.
WHO IS A NARCISSISTIC MOTHER?
A narcissistic mother is one who exhibits traits of narcissism, such as an inflated sense of self-importance, a deep need for excessive admiration, validation and a lack of empathy. She prioritises her own needs and desires over those of her children, often manipulating and exploiting them to achieve her own goals. This can manifest in her “forcing” the children to study courses that she feels will cover her own inadequacies and inferiority complex. Or she could interfere in their choices of a marriage partner, prioritising individuals solely because of their wealth or societal status with little or no care for who their child actually wants to marry. It can manifest in many ways. This type of mother can appear charming and loving in public but is emotionally abusive and neglectful in private.
IMPACT ON A CHILD'S GROWTH AND MENTAL HEALTH
The effects of being raised by a narcissistic mother are profound and far-reaching, impacting various aspects of a child's growth and mental health:
● Low Self-Esteem: Always undermining, constant criticism and unrealistic expectations from a narcissistic mother can lead children to believe they are never good enough. She constantly compares the siblings with each other. This pervasive sense of inadequacy can severely damage their self-esteem and confidence.
● Emotional Neglect: Narcissistic mothers are so selfish that they often are unable to provide the emotional support and validation that children need. This leads to feelings of loneliness, abandonment, and emotional deprivation, as the child’s emotional needs are ignored or invalidated.
● Difficulty Forming Healthy Relationships: Growing up with a narcissistic mother can impede a child's ability to form and maintain healthy relationships. Trust issues and fear of intimacy often stem from the manipulative and self-centred behaviour they experienced, making it challenging to connect with others authentically. She is always right and frequently tries to manipulate her husband to always side her against their children even when she is wrong.
● Chronic Guilt and Shame: Children of narcissistic mothers frequently feel responsible for their mother’s unhappiness and shortcomings. This misplaced guilt and internalised shame can become a heavy burden, impacting their mental health and sense of self-worth. This is very dangerous because it often pushes the children to do “all it takes” to compensate for this inferiority complex in their mother, which can lead to them delving into negative options just to please her.
● Anxiety and Depression: The emotional instability and lack of support in their upbringing can lead to chronic anxiety and depression. The constant emotional turmoil and fear of their mother’s reactions create a state of perpetual stress and unease.
● Identity Issues: A narcissistic mother often enforces her own identity and desires onto her children, leaving them confused about their own sense of self. This lack of personal identity can hinder their development and make it difficult for them to understand who they are independent of their mother’s influence. The children cease to be themselves and rather are living the mirrored life of their mother.
CONCLUSION:
A narcissistic mother's terrible impact on her child's development is both distressing and significant. Every child needs to grow up in a loving atmosphere full of love, support, and empathy. Instead, children of narcissistic mothers face emotional manipulation, neglect, and a deep sense of unworthiness.
Parents have a vital role in determining their children's futures. It is critical for parents to put their children's emotional mental well-being over their own need for recognition. Only through selfless and loving parenting can children develop into confident, emotionally secure persons capable of forging healthy relationships.
The scars caused by a narcissistic mother may be profound, but with understanding, support, and right guidance, these children can recover and reclaim their sense of self and identity. Let us work to build a world in which every child feels respected, loved, and unconditionally supported, free of narcissistic influence.
#treasureyourmentalhealth
NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY DISORDER (NPD)
NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY DISORDER (NPD)
NPD is a more severe form of narcissism, recognized as a mental health disorder. Because individuals with NPD are generally outgoing and have few social inhibitions, people tend to rate them as friendly and amiable which masks the other harmful sides of this disorder.
NEGLECT AND MENTAL HEALTH - A WOMAN’S STRUGGLE WITH POSTPARTUM DEPRESSION
A woman is a prayer warrior, a fighter, the embodiment of understanding and patience, a peacemaker, a cheerleader, and a backbone. She is the silent strength that holds the family together, the unsung hero who sacrifices her comfort for the well-being of others. As a wife, she is the partner who stands by her husband through thick and thin. As a mother, she is the nurturing force that shapes the future. A woman’s heart is vast, her resilience is boundless, and her love is unconditional.
THE JOURNEY OF MOTHERHOOD:
The cry of a baby is cherished in our society, while the mother's struggle to bring that life into the world is often inadvertently overlooked. Women experience unanticipated physical discomfort, swelling limbs, morning sickness, stress, interrupted sleep and sleepless nights for months while they are pregnant. They manage their homes and take care of their husbands while navigating uncomfortable situations and mood swings. The labour room can presents unique difficulties such as trauma, extreme labour pain, loss of blood, fear, and anxiety, tears and cuts, invasion and so on. Whether giving birth naturally or by caesarean section, it is a difficult procedure that leaves many women emotionally and physically traumatised.
THE SILENT STRUGGLE POST-DELIVERY
Following the birth, it is not unusual for all the attention she was used to getting while pregnant to suddenly be directed toward the infant, neglecting her and she notices and feels this. This new status quo hits her hard and leaves her in shock with memories flying randomly and negative emotions starting to grow in her. Even though she is still recovering from giving birth, she still has to endure seemingly endless restless nights caring for and nursing her baby. Physical and mental wounds from childbirth never fully heal. Her spouse, her biggest supporter and comforter frequently fails to affirm her efforts, which puts her at risk for postpartum depression.
THE NEGATIVE IMPACT OF NEGLECT
Neglecting new mothers can have serious repercussions. Physically and emotionally, they struggle to adjust to their new duties. A lack of support can cause emotions of isolation, sadness, and resentment towards her husband, her baby and others. The link between husband and wife can get worse, harming the family's harmony. When the husband and family fail to provide adequate assistance, the mother feels neglected and alone. This emotional neglect might lower her self-esteem and limit her capacity to fully participate in her new position as a mother.
A CALL FOR CELEBRATION AND RESPECT
Our exceptional new mothers should not be overlooked, particularly by their husbands who is her rock, and by family and friends. They should stand by her side, honouring her sacrifices and encouraging her recovery, realising the enormous responsibility that motherhood is. Let us recognise our women more and honour their multiple responsibilities as moms and wives. They are our life' hidden heroines, and they should be cherished every day.
CONCLUSION
A woman's inner strengths and selflessness are profoundly demonstrated by her role as a mother. She should not be neglected after experiencing the ordeal of childbirth because her emotional wounds may become more amplified as a result of her husband’s and family's lack of appreciation, making her feel alone and unappreciated. A woman must be respected and loved, her challenges must be acknowledged, and we must provide constant support. Only then can we genuinely honour a woman. By doing this, we support her and fortify the foundation of our families for a greater society.
PROCRASTINATION
PROCRASTINATION
The swift current of time, hmmm,
Time is constant,
Time is time,
Only God can change time,
Time is a force beyond our control,
Time slips away through our fingers like sand in the wind,
Don’t procrastinate, make use of the time, treasure your mental health, get yourself engaged in sporting activities to keep your mental health intact,
Talk to a counsellor, don’t die in silence, say no to depression, say to mental distress, anxiety and suicide.
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Keep a positive and resilient mindset.
MENTAL HEALTH AND INFIDELITY: THE HIDDEN SCARS OF BETRAYAL BY A WIFE
We have all experienced betrayal in one way or another. When we start to share our stories or scenarios, we often become emotional and tear up because we recall the pains we felt. Sometimes, when betrayal comes from our own family members, we tend to accept it as a normal part of life. However, this acceptance comes at a cost, as it affects our mental well-being and shapes our perspective on life, often without us even realising it.
When it comes to infidelity, society frequently casts the finger at men, while women receive less scrutiny. However, many married women commit infidelity, which is frequently concealed by societal biases that provide them with additional cover. This mismatch means that female infidelity is usually underestimated, leading to misunderstandings concerning the true scale of the problem.
UNDERSTANDING BETRAYAL AND INFIDELITY
Betrayal: A profound breach of trust that causes deep emotional pain.
Infidelity: The act of being unfaithful in a committed relationship, breaking the bond of trust.
THE CONSEQUENCES OF BETRAYAL
When a wife and mother commits infidelity, the emotional consequences on her family are severe. The husband, taken aback by the betrayal, experiences a severe loss of trust and self-esteem. This emotional suffering can show as rage, grief and a profound sense of inadequacy. Even when forgiveness is extended, the experience often leaves an invisible scar, making it difficult to reestablish intimacy and trust.
The wife, weighed down by guilt and regret, struggles with her identity and self-esteem. She may experience depression and anxiety, feeling she has failed in her roles as both wife and mother. The realisation of her actions leads to a profound sense of failure and self-loathing.
Children who witness their parents' emotional dispute may develop feelings of insecurity, confusion, and mistrust, leading them to question the stability of their relationships and harbour doubts about fidelity and love. This experience can shape their future relationships, making them wary of commitment and vulnerable to emotional instability.
REASONS FOR INFIDELITY
Women may cheat for various reasons, including:
● Emotional Neglect
● Opportunity
● Association with bad friends and negative influences
● Lack of contentment
● The lies and falsehood of social media
● Dissatisfaction
● Human vulnerability
● Seeking Validation
● Feeling Undervalued
● Desire for Excitement and Adventure
SOLUTION TO DISCOURAGE INFIDELITY:
To avoid the devastating effects of infidelity, couples should prioritise open and honest communication. Here are some other steps to help prevent infidelity:
● Seek Counselling: Professional help can provide tools and strategies to navigate relationship challenges effectively.
● Express Appreciation: Regularly acknowledge and appreciate each other's efforts and contributions.
● Foster Intimacy: Create opportunities for emotional and physical closeness, ensuring that both partners feel connected and valued.
● Address Dissatisfaction: Discuss feelings of unhappiness or dissatisfaction openly and work together to find solutions.
● Prioritise the Relationship: Make time for each other, nurturing the bond and intimacy that forms the foundation of a strong marriage.
● Think about the consequences of your actions on you, your family, your friends and your circle.
CONCLUSION:
Recognising the shared human vulnerabilities that lead to infidelity can create a more compassionate and effective approach to healing and prevention. Infidelity, especially when it comes from a wife and mother, leaves deep scars on a family, affecting every member in profound ways. Couples can work towards building a stronger and more resilient relationship, preventing the devastating effects of infidelity.
BETRAYAL AND MENTAL HEALTH
Betrayal is a wound that never heals. It leaves a scar that reminds you of a pain inflicted by someone you trusted. Just one experience of betrayal can cause negative emotions and mental health issues for the one who was betrayed. It could also motive offending as the victim may try to cash in on any available opportunity to address the worries and anger that follow the incident of betrayal. The negative consequences of betrayal on both the one that betrayed and the victim of betrayal cannot be overemphasised and include: perpetual rancour / acrimony, mental health sicknesses, loss of life, loss of trust leading to unfriendly relationship and existence, increase in high blood pressure, fear, anxiety and a host of other negative emotions and outcomes.
Betrayal is pain arising from broken trust due to high expectations from others. To lessen this effect, lessen your expectations from others, Don’t betray others because you reap what you sow, Learn to forgive for your own sanity, mental wellbeing and overall health.
MENSTRUAL HEALTH AND HYGIENE
Menstrual Hygiene is key in promoting good health in girls and women and it simply means the use of clean menstrual management material to absorb menstrual blood. Menstruation known as "Period" occurs when an egg attached to the wall of the uterus is not fertilised by sperm so the uterus lining breaks down and bleeds causing a period and this occurs between 2 to 7 days.
Good menstrual hygiene promotes girls’ and womens’ dignity, privacy, body integrity and self worth while poor menstrual hygiene poses serious health risks like reproductive and urinary tract infection, infections like hepatitis B which can lead to infertility and birth complications, body odour, discomfort, psychological stress, shame and sometimes depression especially because of the stigma that comes with poor management of menstruation.
Here are some menstrual hygiene practices one can adopt during menstruation:
1. Wear light underwear preferably cotton.
2. Change menstrual products every few hours and more frequently for heavy flows and dispose of used products properly.
3. Keep private area clean.
4. Drink enough liquids to reduce headache and dizziness because of loss of blood and iron.
5. Keep records and monitor your period cycle to avoid embarrassment.
6. Use unscented toilet paper, tampon or pads.
7. Take your bath at least twice daily during your period.
8. Wash your hands after each change of menstrual products.
9. During your period, avoid diets high in sugar, spicy food and caffeine etc rather eat foods rich in Iron, Omega 3, vitamins & minerals etc.
10. Watch out for mood swings to avoid frustration.
SOCIAL MEDIA, DISINFORMATION/MISINFORMATION, MENTAL HEALTH AND THE SOCIETY
Misinformation and disinformation are often persuasive and are written to create shock or to impress the reader. This is why developing a critical mindset is essential to keep your emotional response to such stories in check.
The advent of advanced technology and digital infrastructure have also inadvertently seen a prevalence of misinformed views, falsehoods and skewed facts often misleading and sometimes insufficient whether the information is about politics, health, science etc.
People are eager to disseminate misinformation/disinformation when the story aligns with their personality or social values; when it is unconventional, elicits strong emotions or simply serves their interests.
Information spreads faster on social media than on mainstream news outlets because several unique features of social media encourage viral content which can either be true or filled with errors.
Speedy publication and information sharing allow users to distribute information quickly to large audiences, unchecked.
Also, people can share information that gets recognition and approval from others.
These factors and more can give rise to a spike in misinformation/disinformation which pose serious risks for the society. For instance, the duo has been identified as major contributors to various contentious contemporary issues:
Belief in both misinformation and disinformation can lead to poor judgements and poor decision-making which can have disastrous personal, societal, national or global implications. A clear example is false census data collected for political, religious or other purposes which are used to plan for National development and project distribution or false election results and the lasting implication on Nations across the world. Truth is that the spread of misinformation and disinformation has affected our ability to improve public health, address climate change, maintain a stable democracy and more because long after erroneous beliefs have been corrected, manipulated narratives can exert lingering influence on people's reasoning because of its influence on memory and decision making.
This gives rise to inevitable challenge for social interaction among families, groups, nations and so on.
The most underrated havoc of this menace is its effect on our individual and collective mental health because misinformation and disinformation often explore negative emotions such as fear, anger, or distrust; to manipulate individuals into believing false or misleading information, having the potential to polarise public opinion, promote violent extremism and hate speech.
Young persons are particularly more vulnerable to misinformation as they spend a significant amount of their time on social media and surfing the Internet. They rely heavily on information circulated online which in turn helps form their opinion and how they perceive reality. Most times, social media is false reality having no relationship with truth.
The Mental health of most young people has thus been affected without them even being aware of it.
Correct information is characterized by its accuracy, verifiability, brevity, balance and truthfulness.Any information devoid of these is misinformation/disinformation.
In addressing the challenges posed by disinformation, we should always offer accurate and fact-based information to counter disinformation.
Where possible, provide reviewed citations and offer credible and well-known sources to support and promote accuracy.
Instead of immediately reporting information, document it by saving web links, taking screenshots, and tracking engagements over time.
Filter through news by thinking critically about the information, assessing how reliable the source is, fact-checking and researching.
This way, you will be able to use your discretion to decide whether you’re going to believe the information being fed to you.
